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25 Ways to Achieve Anything  You want in Life

Struggling to discover the success ways? As minors, most of us are fortunate to have parents guide us to our next move. In schools and colleges, we have teachers and professors as our mentors.    But as soon as we turn into independent individuals, most of us battle alone to define our success ways.   Is your question How to become successful still struggling to find the best answer? Rest easy! there are many like you striving to define life on their own terms. Yes… the best characteristic of this phase is it’s nondiscriminatory and spares none.  And when we’re all in this, let’s battle it out together.   Everyone cannot afford the best of life coaches, and so, success tips to inject motivation is the need of the hour!   Allow me to offer: 25 ways to be successful, tips to achieve anything  you want in life Fail… to never repeat it again You are not away from the fact Failures are the Pillars of Success. I strongly feel failures are the best thing that happens to successful people. Yes, there is no substitution to experiencing failures for teaching the best ways to be successful. So don’t be apprehensive about it! Taste failures to explore the various possibilities of a breakdown, to never encounter them anymore and eventually achieve success. Related: The Most Successful Failure Listen to your gut over people Today’s customary obstacle in our success ways is people’s advice, always ready irrespective of whether we seek. What worse… we believe in most without trusting our instinctive voice. My friend… only you have the right answers to your questions. Listen to everybody but authorize your instinct to make the final call. Stop expecting people to stop fulfilling their undue expectations Everyone is glued to their individual struggles. So why not take the responsibility of overcoming it by oneself? Feeling the need of people to fulfill your undue expectations seizes your independence. And when you expect from people, even they seek from you.This give-take relationship causes more harm than good. So let us stop playing the expectation-game to negate the effect of people obstructing our success ways. Related: You lose via expectations Never surrender to inevitable lows When we struggle to find ways to be successful, there comes a point when most of us hit the rock bottom. Every way out seems impossible. Hard time this! But again, this rough patch is customary to every individual and is the real test of enduring patience. And sometimes, the best you can do in this phase is allowing it to move on without over-thinking. Related: Let go the...

Do you need a life coach? Pros and cons of life coaching

Do you need a life coach?  I observed a drastic increase in Google searches revolving around hiring a life coach. Searches like best life coaches, life coach near me, find a life coach, get a life coach, are trending. These intriguing searches instigated me to get a deeper insight into insights of life coaching — who is a life coach, and for you to figure out whether you need one. Who needs a life coach? Good life coaches by their practical experience, sublime confidence and supreme ability to uplift, help clients to realize their goals and objectives. Be it a personal or professional goal, a life coach is multi-dimensional. A good life coach is a guide, motivator, counselor, mentor — all in one!  The role of a life coach is their clients’ upliftment till they don’t realize their goals. It could be in the form of motivational sessions, one-to-one interaction, telephonic communication, life pieces of advice via counseling, a combination of any. Whether you are looking for a business coach to attain your materialistic goals, or a relationship coach to dilute the bitterness in your personal relationship; a life coach is your go-to man. Let us understand the role of a life coach involving two major spheres in a person’s life  — as a business coach and a relationship coach. Life coach as a business coach: Everyone is fighting hard in their materialistic battle. The nature of the fight differs, but each one struggles in a peculiar way. Some need the motivation to continue with existing job/business, some need pieces of advice pursuing a dream career. There are many who want to recover from losses, and there are individuals who strive to double their profits. So you see, goals are different, but the struggle mode is always on in this money world. Motivation to endure is the need of the hour! And while many lose patience to stay self-motivated, the role of a life coach is gaining popularity to guide you, and make you realize materialistic goals. Life coach as Relationship coach: One busy lifestyle, the same old bread-butter fight, and the newly dominant social environment — all are contributing to the distress and differences in a personal relationship. Be it a parent-child relation, husband-wife relation, the best of friendships, even our connection with ourselves — relationships are bleeding profusely. The trust factor, compatibility issues, judgmental comparisons, time constraints, are one of the many reasons causing the differences.  But unlike before, there is a certain level of awareness in people where they could address the reasons for their unhealthy interpersonal relationship, but just cannot figure out the solutions by themselves. With that, is arising the need for a life coach for a desperate fix. Let’s jump straight into: Pros and Cons of having a Life Coach Advantages of a life coach: There is someone listening to you, the one to whom you speak your heart out. Be it a business problem or a relationship problem, you’ll not sink in your problem-ocean.  A good life coach not only enables you to flush out your frustration but is also ready with practical pieces of advice offering solutions. A...

Boring life? 4 super effective ways to break the monotony

Kind attention: Read if your fight is not only materialistic in nature but also for eternal happiness while fighting! Boring life: What defines your monotonous life? My monotony of life? This generation’s monotonous life? A haunting tradition following since the X generation! It’s a pre-defined conventional journey — starts with a super active kid in school, an adventurous teenager in college days, and then? As soon as you enter the late twenties and early thirties, don’t you feel we become a puppet dancing off-beat to the tune of a monotonous life? You won’t disagree more or less we share a common story. We’ll talk a little about every phase starting teenage. The time before that does not qualify for scrutiny. You were very much soulful then. The tender teenage is the age when most of us are on an exploring spree. It’s the most exciting phase when most of us are introduced to new experiences. The thrills of hormonal attraction, the adventure of bunking classes, the excitement of a new phone, fear of failures, sadness inflicting loss, and what not… Life events are not customary and that’s the best part of this time. Every moment awaits to capture a new experience. Moving to the next phase is the dawn of adulthood when most of us experience almost every new emotion we possibly could. By now, we prioritize and move forward with life’s available choices. But what next? Don’t you realize your life stagnates thereafter? Yes… the majority of us stand at the doorstep of a monotonous life. ‘That’s because we turn into: spouses, parents, grandparents in the personal sphere an employee or an employer in a professional career a mere reputation in the social environment Till over and out.’ Please keep reading even if you haven’t reached this state; you are nearer than you think! That’s because soon a customary routine takes over to define your life’s monotonous process until your final gasp. Most have compromised with it. But you don’t belong there; the reason you are here. Allow me to offer: 4 super effective ways to break the monotony of everyday life: Take mind breaks When you programme your mind into a routine existence; your mind becomes a jailor and your soul a prisoner. Your life isn’t a beautiful exploration journey anymore. I may sound silly if I ask you: Do you wait for the holidays? Everyone does! Most of us work our asses off the entire week to enjoy on weekends. But does that mean you are eligible for happiness only on weekends? I don’t know much but I am sure about this: We cannot assign a particular date, time, and place for happiness. My friend; even happiness seems monotonous this way. What I feel we need this break every day. Any small conscious mind break is capable to break your routine existence. Listening to music, exercising, or maybe a long drive — any such monotony breaker not involving your mind is capable to rejuvenate your soul. And when you do that, you realize happiness does not involve the mind, it’s an essence of the soul. Did you know? Not only feeling happiness, but a mind rest daily can also raise its potency drastically. Here is a summary of recent research...

You cannot be happy if your Monotonous life misses any of three E’s

Do you pick up and eat whatever life throws at you? Does submission to destiny define your monotonous life? monotonous life: If you could sense any bit, let’s unlock the unsung reality. Nobody knows what’s coming, but what worse than settling down with customary existence; as repetitive as a seconds’ ticker. If your life ride is sans the three E’s- Exploration, Endurance, Expressiveness; you are an overplayed song on the radio. I am sure we are dying to break the boring monotony of your mere apparent existence. Let’s unlock the first step: Exploration Life enthusiasts define life as an exploration journey. Have you ever introspected your life travel? In case you don’t know: You are responsible to explore two journeys: The one is a reciprocation to the outside world The other is the response to the inside world This may sound like a boring topic of a lengthy lecture but trust me it’s all-important. Your outside world comprises people and situations. And your inner sphere revolves around you as an individual regardless of anyone and anything external.  Do you know what happens if you aren’t a curious explorer of your inner world? People’s expectation overburdens you with obligations, which bows you down to a boring monotony. I was a part of this sad story; I’m trying hard to write my individual script.   Let me ask you a simple question good enough to make you realize the significance of inner-self exploration: How do you start your day? By getting out of the bed... right? Wrong... there’s something you do prior to it. You open your beautiful eyes which simultaneously activates a certain level of consciousness of your mind.  Subsequently, a primary thought of the morning takes a small stride to initiate your inner exploration. Do you realize it? Because that’s the biggest problem: Most of us are unaware our inside travel engine is leaking fuel. How ironic: The outside world concerns most of us; the pull of the inner world is seeking experience. The reason it is untouched by many is it does not have an apparent existence. But what you don’t comprehend: If you are a puppet to the outer world due to a lack of the inner world exploration- the monotony prevails... Why? Because you didn’t explore your ability to break it!  The best solution: Liberate your inner world to take the call for your outer world. Never allow people and situations to dictate your monotonous life. To reach that level of consciousness, you need to meditate. Just because you never meditated, it doesn’t mean you cannot. Check out 8 meditation techniques for complete beginners... And when you succeed in a better exploration of your inner world, you define happiness your way.  This is when you are ready to unveil the second E. Endurance Wikipedia defines endurance as the ability of an organism to exert itself and remain active for a long period of time, as well as its ability to resist, withstand, recover from, and have immunity to trauma, wounds, or fatigue. Yes... it is all about continuing to move forward bearing hardships. Do you endure? If not, it’s a sensitive indicator you live a monotonous life. Ever wondered who endures? The one who explored the inner world beautifully to find...

Either you are nude or naked; know the difference?

Either you are nude or naked; know the difference? Nude or Naked : I wish you undress; watching you nude would be a wonderful treat. Now before you judge;   It’s your mental body I’m talking about! Sounds silly? it’s not:   Uncovering your mental body is paramount as covering your physical body. Pondering over differences between nude and naked? According to Vocabulary.com, 'If you have no clothes on, you’re naked.'   I’m sure your mental body doesn’t wear clothes. But just because it does not have an apparent presence, you have an unknown real identity.   Therefore nudity is important!   Now when you know you have an unclothed mental body: When you unveil it by yourself, you become nude.  When others expose it, you are naked. There’s a thin line of difference between the two.   John Berger says:   'Nakedness reveals itself. Nudity is placed on display. The nude is condemned to never being naked. Nudity is a form of dress.'   The journey to become nude is a painful transformation where you learn the subtle art of giving a damn about people. Still confused? There’s one beautiful citation by MENTAL FLOSS illustrating the difference between naked and nude:   “If you doff your duds to pose while descending a staircase for a tasteful painting done by a respected artist, then you’re nude. If a bunch of paparazzi suddenly burst in through the studio door and take your picture without permission, you are suddenly naked.”   I’m sure you don’t want this to happen! But why am I stating this? Maybe, you are not the person you were; not the one people perceive you.    You have changed! Your ‘now and then’ has a discrepancy.  You want to adapt for own good; Wish to age like a fine wine.  You strive to flow with time; Want to experience your journey consciously.   You like to become more and more you! What’s holding you back? People already have an opinion about you. There’s a particular way they perceive you.  And you want to break that monotony! You know you have changed; you want others to accept it. The worst part: You are afraid of how people will perceive your transformation! As bitter as it gets: The people cannot take it. They are jealous of your self-awareness.   They cannot accept you became mature enough to shift your aura’s residence to yourself.   It pisses them off when you are less attentive to them. This is what they don’t want to happen.   No denial, even you have been guilty! But it’s human to commit mistakes; right? And now you realize it’s time to compensate; to feel the difference.  You are probably wondering: Is showcasing nudity that easy? No, it’s not!   People will restrict you. They’ll try every way to intercept your transformation. They might cry, shout, request, get nasty; they'll try them all! But before you quit: You need to showcase one performance where you go all in to become nude. Yes, gather the courage to express yourself only once.   Just reach out to them and let your soul shout; This is my originality; Accept or Leave!   Trust me, you’ll never have to cover your face with an illusionary mask of fear again.   One firm step towards finding yourself is worth giving a shot! One bold attempt to get nude is better than getting your exposed by people. Wondering why...

A conscious mind is a gateway to happiness

Yes, it all starts with your mind...

Cricket is life…Life is Cricket

life as like cricket
Cricket is life...Life is cricket : If you are living in a country called India, I am sure you could relate to any of the two emotional phrases in the title. It is just that you define one of the phrases. This is where the article becomes a must-read for you. Forget Fear, Do Something Different.” ― Mahendra Singh Dhoni it? Say... you are the one for whom "Cricket is life"...it means you are the one who plays cricket, who knows cricket, who is passionate about it. Now let’s say "Life is cricket" for you...it means you may not be the one who plays cricket or who knows much about cricket. But whenever India plays a match, you are always there in front of the T.V cheering and shouting... ‘India...India’. Be on either side, we, the Indians are in love with the game of cricket. To segregate it further, you gotta be kidding me if you are a Ranchiite and you are not an MSDian. Cricket is a religion for some and for some it’s just a game...but irrespective of how you see it, let us expand our mental horizons and relate to India’s favorite sport in our real lives.  Many of us perceive it as a glamorous sport and feel jealous of a cricketer's lifestyle, fit bodies, name, fame, and money. But how many of us know how have our heroes reached the international stage? How many of us know how disciplined they are in terms of their regime, diet, and routine to maintain that level? How many of us are aware of their failures behind their success? And when they have reached here, how many of us know what they go through in and off the field? We only see them playing but you know, there is a lot we need to see beyond the conventional batting, bowling and fielding aspects. My dear friend, the game of cricket is not less than a life lesson. To be precise, Life is a 22-yard cricket pitch and we all are players who will retire one day...Why am I saying this...Let us find out. Most of the people consider cricket to be a batsman's game, so first, let us find out what can be learned from a batsman?   How does a good batsman build his innings? He comes to the crease, not sure about the wicket. He begins his innings tentatively. He observes, takes time, allows the nerves to settle down. The initial time at the crease is not easy. He is tested by short balls, pacy yorkers, swinging delivering, not to forget the doosras and the googlies. He defends, ducks and respects the challenging deliveries. He does not have answers to every ball but is not rattled by it. He absorbs the pressure and gradually starts playing his shots. Once his eye is in, he manipulates the field, starts dictating the terms to reach a milestone. This is what a good batsman does...right? And the testimony of it is none other than "The MS Dhoni." Now here's the interesting part? The definition of a milestone...Some batsman feel the pressure...

What is right and what is wrong?

Am I right or am I wrong? This question comes to your mind before and after any action. Let us try to find an answer. Dear friend, you have your right-wrong beliefs in different spheres- personal, professional, political, economic and so on. But a person’s life mainly revolves around two spheres-personal and professional. Involving these two spheres, let us take the help of illustrations to unlock the right and wrong beliefs. You can have the right and wrong beliefs about: Situations People Let us take a situation-based instance from the personal sphere... If I ask you... Is God right or wrong? This question sounds weird, but trust me it’s logical. Please answer it… Did you feel that your answer is biased to your current situation? Confused? Let me clear this out for you.  Suppose, your today is a fairytale with happiness all around. No wonder, for you, God is absolutely right! God forbid but assume the other side… You surfaced a sudden loss or a failure. Something shattered your life and there’s sadness all around. If I ask you the same question, God will be wrong. Yes, it happens with almost every individual. Your answer today is dependent on your current situation. You felt it, right? And this happens with most of us. The spontaneity to react to a situation bypasses the concepts of right and wrong.  Let us take the example of people in your professional sphere... If I ask you whether your boss is right or wrong? Your answer will be based on the current tuning with him. The day when he applauds you or offers you incentives or talks about your salary raise, he is right. But the day when he screams at you or overburdens you with work, the same boss is wrong.  The same thinking is applicable when you are the boss...The day you see your employee devoting extra time to work, cracking a deal, achieving targets, he is right... and when he takes long leaves, asks for a salary hike, commits mistakes, he is wrong. One observation drawn is you adjust your right and wrong as per time and situation you are in... Let us find out whether this adjustment is justified… Here’s the interesting part... You are just another person who makes a choice as per your convenience of time and situation. Likewise, others are doing it. And there is nothing wrong with it. My dear friend, you are just a slave to our priorities. Your right and wrong are molded as per time and situation you in. It is all about your priorities and you need not feel sorry for the same. It is the practicality of the real world. And there is nothing much you can change about it. So let us stop judging people and situations, and stop labeling them as right or wrong... An eye opener... When your life is loaded with materialistic options, you might feel that thinking always about the money is wrong. But God forbid, when you cannot fulfill your necessities of life, all you want is money. Now tell me whether you are right or wrong? Will you judge yourself now? I am sure you’ll not… Time for in-depth realizations!!! You...

Express yourself to flush out the negativity

Allow me to begin with a small composition of mine: Speak Speak speak... you speak SPEAK WITH AUTHORITY, SPEAK WITH CLARITY... make sure you get heard when you speak Irrespective of the language YOU SPEAK... as long as you have a voice, you speak don’t wary the criticisms and the questions ... as long as you are right, you speak Don’t worry about losing them, FOR THE SAKE OF FINDING YOURSELF, you speak. To spit out the negativity, for the sake of positivity... gather courage only once to speak on their face and never behind, as long as they are wrong, you speak FOR THE SAKE YOUR RESPECT AND ESTEEM... SPEAK SPEAK SPEAK... YOU SPEAK Hope you liked it! Let's jump right into the nitty-gritty of expressing: Expressing is an introduction of your true self to the outside world. Whatever you are inside, just exhibit it outside. What you are and whatever you feel, just express yourself. Never feel afraid of it. Always remember: “You were born to be real, not to be perfect.” - Claire Baker And this applies to everyone. When you have the freedom of expression, use it to your advantage. You are probably wondering: Why is expressing important? Expressing is your deliberate attempt to convert the negativity felt into positivity. In the world full of lies and betrayals, it is difficult to stop feeling negative. But you need to understand that feeling negative is not a problem.  The problem arises when you keep that negativity within you and do not express it out. But when you express out, you unburden yourself and flush out the negativity.  To maintain transparency between your physical and mental appearance. In case you don't know: There are two facets of your appearance- physical and mental. Expressing acts as a mirror between the two. It ensures that whatever you feel from inside, you present it outside. This way, you are true to yourself and to others. There is no retention of negative feelings inside you to attract other negative energies. You always ride high on yourself via expressing. When you express your true self to others, it means you value your ideas, thoughts, and beliefs. No wonder, expressing is one of the best ways to develop self-love. The quote above says it all... When you express, you expose yourself in front of others. You reveal your true identity to them. In the process, people might get hurt. Many people might not like you. They can call you rude, offensive and aggressive. They might misunderstand you. However, the ones who deserve to be in your life will understand you gradually. They will accept you the way you are. No wonder, these people will be less. But they will be the ones whom you will find by your side every time you need them. It's your identity, this is the way you always are, independent of the person, time and situation. Feel proud! Look: Being nude is always better than being naked. Sounds silly? It's not: Being nude is your choice. It is when you uncover yourself by yourself. It‘s your discretion to expose yourself to others. It is the transparency you...

What is the difference between ‘Loser attitude and Nothing to lose attitude’?

Before evaluating the differences, let's find out the similarity between both the attitude.  Did you notice that both the attitude have four consecutive letters in common-'LOSE'? You know what does it mean? It means that both the attitude(loser/nothing to lose) are provoked by a loss. Now, there are two possible conditions involving a loss.  You are on the verge of losing. You have already lost. Subsequently, when you encounter any of the above-mentioned situations,  it provokes either a 'nothing to lose' attitude or you develop a 'loser attitude'.   An example involving sports where you are on the verge of losing... Two players are playing a game of squash inside two different courts.  The game is of 5 sets. Both the players lose the first two sets. Obviously, the recovery seems extremely difficult hereon. Now, let us try to compare and analyze their respective attitude where one develops a loser attitude while the other develops a nothing to lose attitude.  The one with the ‘loser attitude:’ After losing the first two sets out of five, the person with a negative mindset starts considering himself as a loser even before the result of the game. It evokes fear inside him and he begins saying to himself that he cannot win from this particular game-situation. Eventually, he surrenders to a situation and showcases a ‘loser attitude’ in the subsequent game-set. This attitude fails to deliver miserably, no need to mention the outcome. The one with the ‘nothing to lose attitude.’   A person with a positive frame of mind sees things differently. After losing the first two sets, he sets himself free. Even he starts considering himself as a loser but with a different mindset. As soon as he accepts his loss, he starts seeing it as a different ball game altogether. It evokes a fearless attitude within him as he is already considering himself as a loser. He starts feeling that he cannot go down anymore and plays the rest of the game carefree and stress-free. Trust me, most of the times he is able to turn the tables around from nowhere, and an evident lose turns out to be a surprising victory. Let us consider a monetary example where the loss has already occurred: Two businessmen suffered a huge financial loss in their respective trades. The one with a loser attitude: The person with the loser attitude starts feeling embarrassed and ashamed. He is not able to sink that loss inside his mind. As a result, it never lets him overcome that loss or defeat. That fear of losing refrains him from starting again. As a result, he always considers himself a loser.  The one with a nothing to lose attitude: There is the other businessman who considers it as an opportunity, the opportunity to start from scratch, where he cannot go down beyond it. This attitude allows him to realize his mistakes so that he never repeats it again. Time for some Happy Realizations!!! Friends, we all lose on something at some point in time.  But what makes us a loser or winner depends...






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